How does it affect my behaviour?

STATES OF COMFORT AND STRESS 

Let's overview the meaning of the arrows in Enneagram and what kind of role they play. As you can see, every type in Enneagram has one arrow incoming and another outgoing. The incoming arrows indicate to us which type of qualities we have access to in a state of personal comfort. It also describes what kind of behavior we can expect if we work with ourselves and reach the "healthy" levels of our Enneagram type, or what kind of qualities we will need to integrate if we want to go in the direction of our personal development. The outgoing arrow indicates which type of qualities we have access to when we feel stressed or when we push our personality to the limits.  This motion is a natural process and happens without us doing anything specifically, that is why we can not say that moving from one type to the other is better or worse. 

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Let's overview the meaning of the arrows in Enneagram and what kind of role they play. As you can see, every type in Enneagram has one arrow incoming and another outgoing. The incoming arrows indicate to us which type of qualities we have access to in a state of personal comfort. It also describes what kind of behavior we can expect if we work with ourselves and reach the "healthy" levels of our Enneagram type, or what kind of qualities we will need to integrate if we want to go in the direction of our personal development. The outgoing arrow indicates which type of qualities we have access to when we feel stressed or when we push our personality to the limits.  This motion is a natural process and happens without us doing anything specifically, that is why we can not say that moving from one type to the other is better or worse. 

States of Stress

Let's look at some examples so that we will gain understanding in a more practical way. If we take number two as an example, they live by the principles: I always need to be good, loving and most important to take care of other people's personal needs (not putting their own in priority). At the same time, however, they want that others will act the same toward them, unconsciously expecting that others will see their needs and want to take care of them, which in their understanding is a form of love. Of course, these expectations will mostly remain unfulfilled, as other people can not see the thought process behind their good actions. All of these good actions will eventually have their limits and if they do not receive what they expect in return, they can become very aggressive. This is an example of a number two moving to the number eight stress. They can begin to express impulsive and aggressive anger no longer hiding their personal needs they become very straight forward and stubborn.  It is very important to understand that moving to a state of stress is a way of survival. In all stressful situations, a number two starts to use the strategy of number eight.

 

States of Comfort

In the same way, when people who defined themselves as number two live in harmony, they take on the qualities of number four. They begin expressing their feelings, becoming more aware of their inner world, caring about their personal needs, creating a deeper connection with others and discovering what they like in their personal lives. This movement is inherent for all types. 

It is very important to note that every type, when they move into the other types through comfort or stress, takes the qualities from the development (nine levels of personal development)of their personalities. If you are a number three and you are in the fourth level of self - development, that means that in a state of stress you take the qualities from the fourth level of number nine and in a state of comfort - the qualities of level four from type six.

It is highly recommended that you overview the qualities of the various types and bring this awareness into your present moment. This does take some practice as well as personal understanding of the Enneagram, however, it is a basic requirement for those who want not only to know their type but to also begin realizing and changing habitual patterns.

„If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. 

WHAT ISN'T PART OF OURSELVES DOESN'T DISTURB US .“

Hermann Hesse

Why do I sometimes experience conflicting qualities?

We can see that in the circle of Enneagram each type is in between two other types, in Enneagram these are referred to as your type wings and they play a big part in relation to our major type. Within our personalities, we have qualities of both 'wings' of our type, however, people can generally only relate to qualities of one of their 'neighbor' types. This can make everything a little more complicated to understand because now we have come up with unique types based on the wing you have developed, meaning we have 18 unique types, which are all different from one another.  For example, number nine with an eight wing will be more like a number eight, expressing themselves as grounded and self-confident. On the other hand, a number nine with a one wing will be more like a number one, being more organized and following the rules. Nevertheless, they both have the same main structure of a number nine (fears, the path of growth and so on). The wings can help us to develop our personalities since most of the time they have contrasting qualities to our original type. This contrast gives us the opportunity to see ourselves and our world from a different perspective, giving us access to a broader view of the world and allowing us to grow. By growing we gain access to a wider range of qualities that we can then integrate into ourselves.  It is important for us to develop the qualities of both wings equally and by doing that we come closer to our own inner personal balance. 

“Know your true self and be it."

Pindar

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