You think you are number eight, in Enneagram called The CHALLENGER? Please become familiar with this type in the description below:
In the early days, children of this type decide that their mother repelled them. Feeling betrayed this is how they made the decision that they will take care of themselves independently. Growing up with this feeling of betrayal, they transfer the expectation of being betrayed onto all people who surround them.
In reality, people of this type are very delicate, sensitive, and vulnerable. They perceive these qualities as weaknesses and try to hide them from the world. They hide them so well that they themselves forget that they have them.
In the childhood of a number eight, there is one more very important and decisive thing in the development of their personality; they notice that in life the ones who are more strong, famous, and important have the ability to push their ideas, thoughts, and solutions on others regardless of whether they are correct. Therefore, they further strengthen their established belief that "I must be strong" and extend it to "so I can defend the weak".
The people of this type are self-confident and strong. They believe that you should control your surroundings and the people around you. They are certain that they can not show their vulnerable side, and that is how they cover their true personality with the image of being a strong person. They take a lifelong path to prove that they can stand up for themselves and that they are not afraid of anyone.
When you feel imbalanced
What others of your type say about themselves
I have a lot of energy inside me;
Intuitively I know what is right and what is not ;
It is very important to always have some challenges;
I keep distance from the others, I am afraid to be hurt;
I do not like being controlled by others;
I love speaking very directly;
The majority of the time I do not find any barriers to me reaching my goals;
I rarely make mistakes or do not achieve my goals when I contemplate and spend some time considering my further strategy;
It is hard for me to apologise and accept my own mistakes;
I divide people into two categories; either my people or all others;
My life is a constant battle;
I do not let anyone hurt me;
I hardly accept my own mistakes, and often try to prove that I was right and that it was only the conditions which were not right;
I have my opinion on all the questions in life;
Most of the time I have to fight and stand for my opinon.
How to get along with me
Stand up for me and for yourself;
Be confident, strong and straight forward;
Value my trust and do not speak behind my back;
Share your feelings;
Often I am categorical. Do not accept this as an attack;
Give me some space to be by myself;
Show me appreciation but not false praise;
When I am strong, accept that it is who I am.
“I have no doubt that my strength and endurance came from my father. He always repeated to me, “Never let anyone push or hurt you.” Crying in our family was also forbidden. I learned not to show my weakness in early childhood. I remember when Dad slaughtered my favourite sheep, I was strong and no tears rolled down my face. I can guarantee my dad was proud of me. Well, now I no longer hold back my tears. I've become truer to myself through my life."
– Nev, 41.
The story of my life
"It simply caught me at the right time. Now that I understand myself better, I can talk to you. As for my personality, I have always been an infinitely strong person, nothing was impossible for me. You would be surprised at how many people have been affected by my behavior. If I had a goal, I would only see that goal, and it didn’t matter at all whether I would have to hurt families or break someone’s heart in the process of reaching it. Frankly, when I was doing something, I didn’t even think about it. It was only after I had taken the action that I would realize that someone was left hurt or someone was uncomfortable obeying me. You know, my past isn’t really easy, but thank God I’m different person because of it now. To the best of my ability, I am currently helping an enormous number of people and repaying debts to all those I have made suffer.”
– Tony, 39.
"I feel extremely good about being a number 'eight.' I can be strong and capable of managing situations, being desired by others and being respected at the same time. I remember feeling very good when I didn’t hesitate to act and rushed to the rescue of my friend who has being attacked by her ex-husband. She thanked me and kept repeating, “Thank God I have you”. It’s really just one example, but I’m openly happy to have the strength to help those in need without thinking about the consequences or myself. My team at work feel confident and relaxed every day, because they know that in the case of any unpleasant situation, I will help them."
– Rasa, 31.
Questions to help understand yourself better
Do you think that people either strong or weak? And you believe that in order to survive in this world you need to be strong?
Do you think that emotionality, forgiveness, and sensitivity to means weakness?
Do you communicate straight forward and you value others who act in the same way as well as being direct?
Do you feel like sometimes people are afraid of you? And for you, it is like a sign of power and authority?
Do you feel like every day is like a battle?
People like you: G.I. Gurdjieff, Richard Wagner, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Winston Churchill, Oskar Schindler, Fidel Castro, Martin Luther King, Jr., Lyndon Johnson, Mikhail Gorbachev, Golda Meir, Indira Gandhi, Saddam Hussein, Senator John McCain, Donald Trump, Pablo Picasso, Ernest Hemingway, Norman Mailer, Toni Morrison, Serena Williams, James Brown, Aretha Franklin, Keith Richards, Queen Latifah, Courtney Love, Jack Black, Chrissie Hynde, Pink, John Wayne, Frank Sinatra, Humphrey Bogart, Lauren Bacall, Bette Davis, Mae West, Sean Connery, Paul Newman, Clint Eastwood, Tommy Lee Jones, Jack Nicholson, Susan Sarandon, Russell Crowe, Sean Penn, Harvey Keitel, Matt Damon, Alec Baldwin, Roseanne Barr, Barbara Walters, Rosie O’Donnell, “Dr. Phil” McGraw, “Tony Soprano"
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Levels of development
Moving Healthy to Average level
My state of being which show that I am moving to average levels: "I feel that I have to push and struggle to make things happen."
"Wake - up call" (read more) going from healthy levels to average
Moving from Average to Unhealthy level
My thoughts which shows that I am moving to unhealthy levels: "I feel that others are turning against me and will retaliate."
Red Flag (read more) moving to unhealthy levels
LEVEL1 Eights let go of the belief that they must always be in control of their environment, which allows them to let down their guard and heal their hearts. They also paradoxically achieve their Basic Desire - the desire to protect themselves, and become magnanimous, self- surrendering, courageous, forgiving, and sometimes heroic.
LEVEL2 Eights use their energy and willpower to become independent and in control of their lives. They are vigorous and action-oriented. Self- image: " I am assertive, direct, and resourceful."
LEVEL3 Eights reinforce their self-image by taking on challenges. They prove their strength through action and achievement, through protecting others and providing for them, and through bringing out others' strengths. They are strategic and decisive and enjoy realising constructive projects.
LEVEL4 Eights begin to fear that they do not have enough recourses to succeed with their projects or to carry out their role as provider. Thus, they become more shrewd and expedient about getting the resources they want. Businesslike and competitive, they are more guarded about their feelings.
LEVEL5 Eights worry that others will not respect them or give them their due, so they try to convince others of their importance. They boast, bluff, and make big promises to get people aligned with their plans. Wilful and proud, they want others to know that they are in charge.
More levels we discuss in a class.
Practice for personal grow
Your true strength begins to grow when you no longer try to prove your power to others.
Learn the art of reaching compromises. Look for mutually beneficial solutions.
Your true strength is in taking responsibility and helping others in difficult times. Perhaps there will be some who will take advantage of this, but you will create much more by ensuring the loyalty and devotion of others, showing the greatness of your heart.
Notice when your behavior hides a desire to protect yourself. Ask yourself, “What are you saving? Who wants to hurt you?”. We often behave automatically without realizing that our lives are completely different from what the once were in the past and that the behavior that is shaped by the past is often out of place in the present.
Catch yourself when, instead of sharing your true feelings, you try to maintain the image of a strong person. A true connection arises when we allow ourselves to exchange true feelings with other people.
Remember, the world is not against you. You care and need people who are on your side. By treating them as if they are against you, you create a wall and cannot see their true intentions. You do not allow yourself to accept the thought that others really want to give, to look after you. Pay attention to those you care about and share with them that they really matter to you.
Notice when you are using more energy than the situation requires. Practice awareness when you perform one action or another. For example, how abruptly you open a door or the volume in your voice when talking to others.
Pay a special attention to what vulnerability means to you. Allow yourself to experience things that you deem as a weakness. This will open you and liberate your heart.
Practice waiting. Stop and think before you take any action or speak. Notice the impulsiveness and repetitive reactions to certain situations inside you.
Truth also exists on opposite sides and in different opinions.