The people of this type are self-confident and assertive. They are gifted with an inner strength and unlimited amount of energy which, if used in a thoughtful way, could bring prosperity to them and those around. They love taking on challenges and creating opportunities for others, helping them to expand their capabilities. Naturally, they involve others into their ideas and lead the path to a greater vision. Loving, caring and always taking more on their shoulders, they create an image of the strong person which becomes an authority for a lot of people.
It is important for you:
to control, defend your vulnerability, be right and getting things moving in work or play.
You do not feel good:
when you have a thought that you can be hurt by others and become controlled by them.
In the early days, children of this type decide that their mother repelled them. They felt betrayed and there they made the decision to take care of themselves independently. Growing up with the feeling of betrayal, they project this expectation of treason onto people around them.
In their childhood, there is one more very important step in the development of their personality; they notice that in life the ones who are more strong, famous and important have the ability to push their ideas and solutions on others, regardless of whether they are correct. Therefore, they further strengthen their established belief that "I must be strong" and extend it to "so I can defend the weak".
In their hearts, people of this type are very delicate, sensitive and vulnerable. They perceive these qualities as weaknesses and try to hide them from the world. They hide them so well that they themselves forget they have them. They learn through life that you should control your surroundings and the people around you. They are certain that they cannot show their vulnerable side, and that is how they cover their true personality with the image of being a strong person. They take a lifelong path to prove that they can stand up for themselves and that they are not afraid of anyone.
Eights are individualists and more than any other type, they try to keep themselves as independent as possible. They try to protect themselves at any cost holding an inner map which is divided to “my circle”- those I trust and all the rest. By having this approach, they tend to look after those who are in their circle and use others for their greater visions. Eights do not like being under control of others, and they keep themselves away from being harmed, controlled or violated in any way. They transfer this fear to anyone they meet which unconsciously keeps others in the safe emotional distance.
Eights often feel hurt and rejected (divorced, humiliated, fired, criticized) and it takes a brave heart to admit to themselves their part of vulnerability. When that happens, they take themselves on the inner journey where they face grief which helps to reconnect with their hearts. They unlock the inner blocks which was holding them back and rediscover their strength by feeling connection to everything around them. They understand that being at war with the world is counterproductive, and they see that controlling situations or people is actually a form of imprisonment. Eights rediscover how much they truly care about the people and their tenderness takes over their actions. By letting down their defenses, they come back home where they can finally express their true potential and qualities they dreamed about.
What other people of your type say about themselves:
I have a lot of energy inside me.
Intuitively I know what is right and what is not.
It is very important to always have some challenges.
I keep distance from the others, I am afraid to be hurt.
I do not like being controlled by others.
I love speaking very directly.
The majority of the time I do not find any barriers to me reaching my goals.
I rarely make mistakes or do not achieve my goals when I contemplate and spend some time considering my further strategy.
It is hard for me to apologize and accept my own mistakes.
I divide people into two categories: my people and all others.
My life is a constant battle.
I do not let anyone hurt me.
I have my opinion on all the questions of life.
Most of the time I have to fight and stand for my opinion.
I discover my boundaries by testing them.
Questions to help understand yourself better
Do you think that people either strong or weak? And you believe that in order to survive in this world you need to be strong?
Do you think that emotionality, forgiveness and sensitivity means weakness?
Do you communicate straight forward and you value others who act in the same way?
Do you feel like sometimes people are afraid of you? And for you, it feels as a sign of power and authority?
Do you feel like every day is a battle?
Practices for personal growth:
Pay attention when your behavior hides a desire to protect yourself. Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of? Who and how is trying to hurt me? We often act on autopilot without questioning our behavior which has been learned in a childhood and might not serve us anymore in a present moment.
Bring awareness into the moments when, instead of sharing your true feelings, you are trying to maintain the image of a strong person. A stronger connection emerges when we allow real feelings to be exchanged with others.
Remember, the world is not against you. You are cared and needed by the people in your circle. By treating them as if they are against you, you create a wall through which you cannot see their true intentions. You do not allow yourself to accept what others really want to give you. Pay attention to those you care about. Share with them how they really matter to you.
Notice when you are using more energy than the situation requires. When you open a door or hold something, notice how easily you perform one action or another. When talking to others, try to hear your voice.
Observe what is a vulnerability to you. Allow yourself to experience things that seem weak to you. Thus, opening and liberating your heart. The vulnerable side of you is already part of every person on this planet, we either integrated it or run away by creating day-to-day false behaviors.
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